Simplify to do what you love.
That’s really the message I want to share with you. But how do you simplify when there’s so much you want to do well? You don’t want your house to look like a train wreck everyday because you’re doing what you love. That becomes projects without the peace, and we want both: Peace AND Projects. At least, I do.
Where does that feeling of balance exist? From my own trial and error, I believe you have to start with a basic foundation. If you’re working smarter – not harder – in these three areas, you can have more fun and get some amazing work done, too.
1.
Home
Plan ahead. Living in the moment is a lot easier to do with these essentials in line: Food, shelter and clothing.
Specifically -
Food
- Create a weekly meal plan. Head over to The Organized Home for the long version of this tip.
- Grocery shop using a master shopping list. Click here to download mine (items are in order of how we navigate the store) or revise at will.
- Pack snacks and water for long car rides or shopping trips. Granola bars, nuts, crackers and fruit are easy to grab and go. This saves money by avoiding fast food and convenience stores, too.
Shelter
- Live like a small house. A minimalist approach to personal possessions means I spend a lot less time cleaning and decluttering. Get as much off the floor as possible and donate the stuff you never use. Here are some really good posts to help you get started.
- A guide to creating a minimalist home from Zen Habits.
- Clear the clutter you can’t see from Be More With Less.
- Managing common household clutter from Serene Journey.
- Get and stay organized by subscribing to Unclutterer.
Clothing
- Find your laundry groove. I like to wash and dry everything in one day, dump in a big pile on the floor and fold it all at once.
- Store things like cloth napkins and wash cloths in a basket and quit folding them.
2. Work
Turn off distractions like the cell phone, TV, social networking sites and email. When you need to get something done, give it your attention. Single-task.
Set a timer. Take 10 minutes and see what you accomplish. Then give yourself permission to stop or take a break when the bell sounds.
Break up with social networking sites. A friend recently sent me this email: “I am breaking up with Facebook! There is too much life to live and too many baby giggles that I don’t want to miss.” That really sums it up. If you want keep your Facebook relationship, consider limiting the time with a timer or checking it once a day.
Limit email checking. The more emails you send, the more you’ll get. Give it your full attention once or twice a day instead of each time the ”new mail” icon appears on the screen.
3. Self.
Spend time in solitude. Filling your schedule to bursting never feels like balance. Give yourself permission to be alone.It could be on a walk, sitting on the couch or a moment with the bedroom door closed. Tell the people you love: “I need to be alone for 15 minutes.” Lay down and daydream. Rest from the demands of those who need you.
Exercise. This is still one of my top picks for feeling less stressed and overall better about yourself.
Reflect. Are you really spending time on the things you love to do? On some days, the answer for me would be “no.” We can change that. If you want to write a novel – like I do – you have to take the time. So figure out what you really love and start doing it – It doesn’t have to be work related. It has to be you related.
Try this: Write down the top three things you love to do. Things that really matter to you. It could be your life’s work or your extended family or your marriage. Look at the list. This is where you should spend your time.
I truly believe that time is a gift and it’s precious and you have the choice to do something great with it. You can. Today is the best day to start. Today is the best day to do something amazing.
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Great tips! I especially love the one about living simply in a small house. We have a small 3 bed 2 bath house (1 story) and I love it because we live with less stuff which means less to tend to, clean, etc on a daily basis.
So true! I’ve even thought of downsizing from our 1,600 sq. ft. ranch. I know it would be possible. For now, we’re content.
Take care!
Melissa
Wonderful list. I love the idea of setting a timer and doing something for 10 minutes. I usually think I can’t get anything done in less than an hour, then nothing gets accomplished! I think I could be really efficient if I knew I was on the clock. Thanks for sharing!
Hi Lisa,
I’m a bit addicted to my timer. It helps me avoid wasting time on things I don’t want to waste time on – like cleaning or organizing. Those all have a place, but they shouldn’t take up too much of my day.
Cheers to a peaceful week ahead.
Melissa
Melissa: I LOVE your post (and blog), but I have to tell you it’s extremely unrealistic for women/moms who work outside the home. I spend approximately 12 hours each day getting ready for work, getting to work, working or getting home from work. And then it’s dinner, laundry, cleaning, homework and spending time with my DH and DS. I honestly do not know when or how the “self” part ever fits in. I desperately want out of the cubicle nation and I know what I want to do – write. But trying to find uninterrupted time to devote to this (so that I can get out of the rat race) seems near impossible and what gets ignored while I make time to do it? I would love to hear how others are maanging it.
Hi Colleen,
Thanks for reading my blog. I will definitely reflect on your comment and see if I can recall the days when I worked full time … see if there are any tips I can offer from that point of view.
Great topic idea!
Take care and best wishes for a peaceful week.
Melissa
I have a similar schedule to the one you describe. I get an hour at lunch and I use that for “self” whenever possible as it generally takes me only about 15 minutes to eat. That leaves 45 minutes for the things I enjoy – reading, taking a walk, digital scrapbooking, calling a girlfriend, etc.
Hi Lauren,
I’m glad you’re making time for the things you enjoy. It can seem impossible to find that time in a busy household. The office can be an “escape” of sorts, too.
Take care!
Melissa
Melissa, I’ve really come to love your blog! I can’t quite say why but amongst all the many simplify your life blogs out there, yours is my favorite. Maybe because you’re keeping it real with a down to earth approach, maybe because I just like the way you think and write. I am a tidy-on-the-surface person with an all-or-nothing mentality which means I get little done if a project seems too large. You are helping me change that Thank you! Kerstin (P.S. something happened when I tried to press submit so you might get this twice in which case pls ignore the first)
Hi Kerstin,
Aw, this is wonderful, thank you! I will continue to write from the heart. Comments like this make my day.
Melissa
Thanks for this article. I read your blog religiously. It gives me such hope that things in my life can be different. I’m really inspired today by this….I realized that if I keep doing what I’ve always done, I’ll keep getting the same things over and over again. I have to change…I can’t wait for something to magically appear to make my life better/job easier/etc. These tips I will use again and again. I have never commented on here before, but I want you to know that your tips inspire me to write my blog, and find my passion and pursue my dreams. Thanks!
Hi Brooke,
I’m so glad you enjoy my blog! That’s nice to hear. And you are so right – it won’t happen magically. It’s a lot of work, but if the end result is worth it, you’ll find the motivation to keep going.
Thanks for the uplifting comment.
Hugs,
Melissa
Totally love this article — I’d love to see you expand on these ideas even more! It is such a battle for working moms, like Colleen mentions above, to find time for all of these things in our already-full schedules. For me, I’ve resorted to getting less sleep – I get up earlier in the morning to have about 30 minutes to myself, and it helps me feel less stressed throughout the day, no matter how late I went to bed the night before.
Hi Clara,
Getting less sleep is one way to do it … just make sure the tolls on your health are worth the me time. That’s where the struggle comes in.
As for future posts, I’ll definitely think of some ways to expand on these ideas … Thanks for the idea!
Take care,
Melissa
My favorite tip is the one about making a list of the top three things you love to do. So clarifying! Thanks.
Thanks, Lisa! I’m glad you liked the post.
Hugs,
Melissa
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